Services

Services offered by Stephen and his Interns include:

• Sex Therapy, Transgender Care, Sexual Abuse Treatment
• Individual, Couple and Family Therapy
• Mental Health Assessments
• Group therapy for a variety of issue
• MFT and Sex Therapy Supervision, Marriage and Family Therapy Internships, AASECT Approved Sex Therapy Internships, including AASECT Approved Group Supervision.
• Intensive workshops for individuals, couples, groups and professional conferences in the area of sexuality
• AASECT Approved Workshops on child abuse, surviving sexual abuse gender issues, sacred sexuality/Tantra and the general field of marriage and family therapy and sex therapy – appropriate for both the general public and other mental health providers
• AASECT Approved CE educational workshops, presenting other leaders in the field of sexology
• appropriate for both the general public and other mental health providers
• Professional Advocacy for the GLBTQQI Communities
• Professional Advocacy for Sexual Rights and Freedom
• Book and article writing
  

Myths about Sex Therapy:

Sex therapists help patients by having sex with them
Asking extensive personal questions - Kinsey in the 1950's.
Watching people have sex in laboratories - Masters & Johnson in the 1970's.
Tell people simply "If it feels good - do it!" - Ruth Westheimer in the 1970's.
Achieve multiple "G-Spot" orgasms - Grafenberg in the 1980's.
Safe sex with computers - Cybersex in the 1990's.

Today's Sex Therapists:

Treat interpersonal relationships - Sex is expressed through these relationships
Comfort with language (proper and slang) and descriptions of graphic behaviors
Understand anatomy and the sexual response cycle:

Phase I    - Excitement / Arousal
Phase II   - Plateau
Phase III  - Orgasm
Phase IV - Resolution

Understand why people have sex:

feel powerful nurture other feel close prove they're ok pleasure self-expression self-exploration relieve tension express love money

feel nurtured control other placate partner reinforce gender identity avoid intimacy or conflict because they have to/should prove they're normal prevent partner from straying create dependence in partner

Assess:

- The individual
- The Couple / Relationship
- Refer for Medical Exam

Educate - 80% of the work:

- Direct teaching methods - Dispel myths
- Challenge assumptions

Give homework with explicit and specific details

Reassess - Check on homework

Most Common Presenting Problems:

- Male Penile Errectile Difficulties - Can't get it up
- Male Rapid Ejaculation - Premature Ejaculation
- Female Pre-Orgasm Condition - No Orgasm
- Dyspareunia - Painful Sex
- Sexual Desire Discrepancy

Sexual Desire Discrepancy Myths:

- You can always negotiate a compromise
- One partner may be a sex-addict
- One partner was probably sexually abused
- It's always an expression of intimacy issues
- There is a "normal" amount of sexual desire
- People who love each other will naturally have sex together, and probably enjoy it
- Technique has nothing to do with desire problems
- Sex should be natural and spontaneous
- You shouldn't have to sacrifice any other part of your life for a good sex life
- Desire and arousal always occur together, or are the same thing
- It's easy to diagnose which is the low desire and which is the high desire partner
- The low desire partner isn't sexy, doesn't care about sex, or doesn't get aroused

Other Areas of Focus:

• Rape / Incest and repressed memories
• Gender Identification
• Enuresis - bedwetting
• Sexually Transmitted Diseases
• Pregnancy
• Geriatric Sexuality
• Sex and Disabilities
• Paraphillias - sexual deviations
• Voyeurism
• Exhibitionism
• Pedophilia

Visit other pages on this site for more details on services and projects Stephen and his Interns provide and are involved in. You will learn much more about Stephen and his work by viewing all the pages on this site and by searching for him by name on Google.

Direct referrals are welcome.